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Trapped: Are You A Bird In Your Own Cage?

posted 24 May 2011, 22:01 by Neal Lynch   [ updated 24 May 2011, 23:25 ]
Last week I visited Mum and Dad in the lovely Victorian country town of Romsey. In an attempt to get Mary (mum) to walk for a while to ease the pain in her ankle which had been operated on a few times I suggested we walk around the town and then home after our beautiful lunch. Dad, who has bad feet which he inherited from his mother drove off happy to be left on his own for a while.

We wandered around towns browsing shops when we passed by a garden and saw a beautiful Rosella, a medium-sized colourful Australian parrot, in a cage. I expressed dismay at the fact that there was a stunning bird locked away in a restricted space when it should be flying majestically and loudly in a flock in the bush. Mum, who happens to be a little older and wiser than me said that it reminded her of me about 4 years ago.

Often, when someone you love and trust, points out an insight into your life it can be confronting so I asked what she meant by that and she replied as follows: "You had been constricting your attitude and behaviours and denying the things in life that truly make you happy. Finally, over the past 4 years ago you have taken control, chosen activities and a career that truly make you happy, challenged and dare I say it have allowed you to fly!" Having thought about that for a week I can see her point.

Take control and learn to fly the way you want to.

It didn't take over night for me to trust myself to learn to fly. It took effort, luck, application and with the support of a couple of key friends, family and colleagues. But it started with the seed of an idea, with faith in my own abilities and the realisation that blaming others wasn't making me happy or getting me anywhere.  

Having created Paragon Coaching with Argy Mariolis and now being in a position to help people transform their lives for the better I am finally feeling great about my chosen profession. I know that even when I am tired, overworked and missing my family that I am still doing what I believe in and what allows me to sit down at the end of the day, wine glass in hand, and feel great about each day that has passed.

I am flying each day, free to soar and happy to be performing the work I do. What will it take for you to do the same?

At Paragon Coaching we premise our approach on three assumptions:

  1. Everyone is unique – despite our similarities, our experiences and conditioning are unique. We each have shaped our own personal story and that influences what we want next and how we go about getting there. Your story will reveal the strengths, values and motivations for moving you forward. 
  2. One size does not fit all – because you are unique, we practise a flexible multi-modal approach across an integral landscape. Your concerns and desired outcomes are explored across individual / collective and interior / exterior lenses and aligned to empirically validated methods congruent with your learning style. We are committed to evidence based coaching that is informed through well founded academic research. Through research, supervision and continuing professional development we remain abreast of learning and development in this youthful field of coaching. 
  3. You want to be coached – the most important investment you can make is in yourself. We do not wish to waste your time, money or effort, or for that matter ours. In the first two meetings an assessment is made on both sides. We assess your commitment, willingness to change, be open and take action. You assess our style, approach, qualifications and experience. Coaching is a wonderful learning and growth experience, however it is challenging and at times confronting, requiring persistence, determination and focus. The most important and valuable component of coaching is the time between sessions and how you use it.

Live your own life for you will die your own death - Latin Proverb